Teach our daughter's what being beautiful is all about.

We live in a world obsessed with physical appearance, so it’s important to teach children what inner beauty is at an early age.

Teach our daughter's what being beautiful is all about.

Our culture emphasizes outward beauty, but it’s what’s on the inside that counts. The question is: How do we teach this to our girls?

“Do I look beautiful, Mommy?” My then three-year-old daughter gazes up at me with big brow eyes, eagerly anticipating my response. She looks beautiful to me. But is that what really matters to her? To her heart?

“You do look beautiful today, honey.” I pull her into a squeeze. “But your joy on the inside is especially sparkly this morning—and what’s in your heart is the most beautiful part.”

I love what 1 Peter 3:3-4 says about this:

“Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, . . . Instead it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.”

Because we live in a world obsessed with physical appearance, it’s important to teach children this concept at an early age <click to tweet>.

In Beauty and the Best, author Debra Evans writes:

“In Scriptures, physical beauty is never used as a metaphor for goodness or counted as any kind of moral virtue. In spite of the fairy tales that abound in our culture, beauty has no magical power to make bad people good.”

Parenting expert Mary Manz Simon, Ed.D, agrees.

“We may tell our child, ‘Oh, you look so nice,’ and that’s certainly appropriate, but we need to make sure we balance that by also focusing on our child’s God-given gifts and talents.”

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Observe which two or three character traits your daughter has naturally, such as honesty or patience, then reinforce those. “Be very specific with your praise so your child knows exactly what action should be repeated to have her inner beauty shine,” Dr. Simon says.
Consider significant goals you have for your daughter. Do you believe your child can be a great scientist or musician? Let her know. Chances are, looking pretty in a mirror isn’t on that list.
Catch her “being beautiful.” Though my preschooler still seeks affirmation about her appearance, she also thrives on compliments about her gentleness, her creativity, and her generosity. As I watched my daughter offer a hand-drawn picture to a friend, I noticed a sparkle of joy in her eyes. It was true beauty . . . and I told her so.

More tips:

Give your daughter a sense of identity. Tell her she is a special creation designed by God. Just as God made her different from everyone else on the outside, He also made her unique on the inside.
Take your child to the mirror and show her the loveliness of her smile and the brightness of her eyes. Tell her this is inner beauty coming out.
When your child displays a good attitude and godly character qualities, be sure to mention them. When she seeks a compliment about her physical appearance, also point out inner qualities.
Pray with your child each day, specifically asking God to help her love others in beautiful ways.
When you read stories to your child, discuss the inner qualities of the characters—both positive and negative. Point out we can’t judge people’s hearts by their outward appearances. For example, Snow White’s stepmother, though beautiful, was wicked. When you read Bible stories, talk about inner strengths—the obedience of Noah, the faithfulness of Daniel, the courage of Esther, and so on.
When another child (or your own child) misbehaves, privately talk to your child about the unsightliness of disobedience. Focus on the wrong actions, not on the person. Ask your child to think of ways not to exhibit such behavior.
Sponsor or pray for children in other countries. Point out to your child that even though other people may look different on the outside, we all are God’s special creations.
How about you? How do you teach your daughter what true beauty looks like?

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HAPPY MOTHERS DAY To All Ye Mothers!

There is no greater personal call in life than that of a wife and mother. Anything else a wife or mother does, must be secondary to this. It is popular today to think that there is the “Super-Mom” who can do it all; she can be a loving, supportive wife, a nurturing, present mom, social butterfly, career queen, social activist, etc. God did not design the wife and mother to be all of those things. He planned for her to be the wife and mother, which is far more important than being the CEO of some corporation.

#1 Godly mothers relish their young children and tenderly nurture them.

 As 1 Thessalonians 2:7 says, “But we proved to be gentle among you, as a nursing mother tenderly cares for her own children.” There is great comfort, rest, and security in a mother’s embrace. Isaiah 66:13 says, “As one whom his mother comforts, so I will comfort you.” Psalm 131:2 adds, “Like a weaned child rests against his mother, my soul is like a weaned child within me.” Men can be nurturing, but there is just something unique about the tender embrace of a mother to her child. Children can sense the difference, and they crave a mother’s gentle touch and love. Women should not run from bearing and nurturing children, thinking that there is something supposedly more important or significant for them to do. Even Hannah who dedicated her son Samuel to serve the Lord still took him home to care for him until he was weaned (1 Samuel 1:22-24). God honors mothers who invest in their children, and mothers should adore and treasure the moments that they have with young ones. As Luke 2:19 says, “But Mary treasured all these things, pondering them in her heart.” Children are only young for a short time, and the mother should be there to enjoy her God-given children.

#2 Godly mothers recognize that children are a great gift and reward and thus view and treat them as such.

 Eve said in Genesis 4:1, “I have gotten a manchild with the help of the LORD.” Every time a woman becomes pregnant, it is because God is involved in creating a life (1 Samuel 1:5,19, Psalm 113:9). This is another reason why life is precious and why children are precious to God. It is imperative that mothers recognize the value of children and that they are indeed a gift from God. Psalm 127:3 says, “Behold, children are a gift of the LORD, the fruit of the womb is a reward.” If a mother views her children as a punishment, inconvenience, or the like, she needs to change her perspective quickly lest she treat her children as such. Godly mothers value their children as rewards from God and are thus motivated to do all that they can to nurture, care, and train their children rightly.

#3 Godly mothers instruct their children in God’s truths.

 Proverbs 1:8 says, “Hear, my son, your father’s instruction and do not forsake your mother’s teaching.” Proverbs 6:20 adds, “My son, observe the commandment of your father and do not forsake the teaching of your mother.” King Lemuel in Proverbs 31:1 said that it was his mother who taught him about how to recognize a godly woman who would be a godly mother for his children. Timothy’s godly heritage was a result of his mother and her mother before her (2 Timothy 1:5). Mothers must never underestimate the role that they play in teaching their children about God, about His Word, and about salvation. From as early on as possible, God is to be central in a mother’s instruction. Even in the case of an unsaved or absentee father, mothers can still reach their children by faith (1 Corinthians 7:14). Teaching children the Bible is a huge calling with eternal ramifications, and godly mothers are honored to take up the challenge.

#4 Godly mothers are willing and faithful to discipline their children.
Proverbs 29:15 says, “The rod and reproof give wisdom, but a child who gets his own way brings shame to his mother.” Mothers who enjoy or tolerate their children disrespecting and disobeying them are not operating as God would have them. They should be ashamed of themselves, and they must become willing and faithful to discipline.

#5 Godly mothers do not pick favorites among their own children.

 Proverbs 28:21 says, “To show partiality is not good, because for a piece of bread a man will transgress.” Not only is picking favorites not Christ-like behavior (James 2:1), but it can lead to children sinning as they grow jealous, establish rivalries, and become deceptive and manipulative. Unconditional love for children and fairness in discipline is essential to being a godly mother. Regardless of a mother’s marriage or work situation, God is faithful to honor the faith and obedience of mothers who do whatever they can by faith to follow His principles in raising godly children. Some mothers will have all day with their children, while other mothers will need to work for various reasons. In either case, mothers can follow Biblical principles and be godly mothers. Galatians6:10 says, “So then, while we have opportunity, let us do good to all people, and especially to those who are of the household of the faith.” Mothers, as you have opportunity to be with your kids, to love them, to nurture them, and to care for them, perhaps even to provide for them, do it with all your heart unto the Lord (Colossians 3:23). God will remember and honor your faithfulness. As Galatians 6:9 says, “Let us not lose heart in doing good, for in due time we will reap if we do not grow weary.” Motherhood is certainly wearying, but mothers must stand fast in their calling. As they are faithful in their work at home (Titus 2:4-5), God will be honored, and He promises to honor those who honor Him (1 Samuel 2:30, Proverbs 31:28)

I know its hard being a Mom,

To all of those who feel stressed, rest in the fact that you are doing the will of God. It is tough to be a mom in today’s world. It is hard and exhausting. What do you do with stress? You can take time for yourself. Don’t let the father of your children get by with not doing his part as a parent. Learn to say no. Do the things that will make your life easier even if others don’t understand.

Read 2 Corinthians 3:4-6. 4

Such confidence we have through Christ before God. 5 Not that we are competent in ourselves to claim anything for ourselves, but our competence comes from God. 6 He has made us competent as ministers of a new covenant—not of the letter but of the Spirit; for the letter kills, but the Spirit gives life. I

In what is our confidence as Christians?

 Read 2 Corinthians 4:17-18. 17

For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. 18 So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen, since what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.

How does a Christian handle stress in their life according to this verse?

 Post your thought in the comments.

With Love and Beauty KASH Karla A. Smith Howard.

Made In GODS Image!

God Created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them: male and female he created them. GENESIS 1:27


Media Trends hypnotize the impressionable eyes of women of all ages that:
A woman's "worth" is based on her physical biological traits. 

A woman's Physical Image will determine where her "worth" en-lies"
For instance, 

Woman A is 5 Ft 11, 110 lbs, long legs and perfect hair, she is considered "worthwhile" in the Modeling Industry.

On the other hand woman B may be: 5 Ft 2, 160 lbs, dressed frugally with average maintenance , she is considered "worthwhile" for a teacher, but in the molding Industry would be worth nothing.


Unfortunately this is the way, the world measure's worth.The Good NEWS is appearance is NOT the way TRUE worth is measured, The Bible makes it clear that we have inherent value because we are made in God's image.



Did you know we are Gods most precious and valuable creation?
God gave each and everyone of us CREATIVITY, COMPASSION, & UNDERSTANDING. He gave us hearts to love him and minds to seek him. Each person was created for an important role in this world, and God wants to have a relationship with us, to help us fulfill his will.

Think about it, if GOD thinks we have great value, who are we to argue with him?Furthermore why would we EVER let media trends bullies gauge our worth?

Post your response to the #BGW questions listed below in the comment section.
1.) What is your definition of self worth?
2.) If women would behave with the understanding they are made in God's Image, how would this notion change their sense of worth?

#BGW Beauty Tip:
Psalm 139:13-16 says we are fearfully and wonderfully made, and all the days of our lives were written in God’s book before we were ever born, confirming God’s prior knowledge and plan for our lives.